Ngabe uyahlukunyezwa? Ukuhlukumezeka akuhlali kungokomzimba ngaso sonke isikhathi.

 Kungaba ngokomzwelo, ngokwengqondo, ngocansi, ngomlomo, ngokwezezimali, ngokunganaki, ngokukhohlisa futhi nokugoba. Akufanele neze uyibekezelele njengoba ingeke iholele ebudlelwaneni obunempilo. Esikhathini esiningi, ukuhlukunyezwa kwenziwa ngumuntu esimaziyo, okwenza kube nzima nokuthi sikhulume ngakho. Umhlukumezi usebenzisa imidlalo yemicabango namandla edlala ukuphatha, ukukulawula nokukuxhaphaza.Ukushiya ubudlelwano obuhlukumezanayo nomlingani onobuthi kungaba nzima njengoba kuthinta imizwa yakho, ukuzethemba nokuzethemba. Eqinisweni, ngisho nangemva kokuba uhlukane, i-ex enobuthi ingazama ukukukhohlisa ukuze ubabuyisele emuva. Abahlukumezi bangabukeka kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma usebenzisa izindlela zokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo namasu wokukhwabanisa ukukulawula. Njengoba uzokudida ukuziphatha kwabo okukhohlisayo njengothando, ungahle ukhethe ukuhlala nomlingani wakho ohlukumezayo. Futhi lokhu kungaholela ekucindezelekeni okukhulu, ukukhathazeka, ukuhlukumezeka, i-PTSD kanye nokunye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ukuhlukumeza akukaze kube yiphutha lakho futhi awukufaneli. Awungeke wenze izinto zibe ngcono futhi futhi awunakukwazi ukuguqula umlingani wakho onobungqingili abe ngumuntu onothando nothembekile. Akunasizathu sokuthola isizathu salokho. Uma uzizwa wethukile, wesaba noma ulawulwa ebudlelwaneni, yisikhathi sokuvuka ekuhlukunyezweni. Ungaba ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi nge-psychopath noma i-narcissist. Khumbula, akwamukeleki, futhi awukufanele lokhu.Uma uhlukunyeziwe, leli khasi lizokusiza ekutholeni izindatshana ezibalulekile, izindaba, amabhulogi kanye nezeluleko zokuhlonza ukuhlukunyezwa kobuhlobo nabalingani abanobuthi futhi uthole izindlela ezibucayi zokululama, zivikele wena qala inqubo yokuphulukisa.

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