Kulemba Zochita Pazamalemba Ndi Chinsinsi Ubwenzi Woopsa:
Zolemba Zoopsa M'makalata omwe ali ndi mbendera zofiira:

Mumapitiliza kuyang'ana foni yanu mphindi iliyonse iliyonse momwe anzanu amawonera kuti mukusintha kuposa momwe mumakhalira. Palibe zolemba. Palibe kuyimbidwa. Palibe. Zili ngati kuti akukunyalanyaza mwadala. Mukudziwa ngati ali wotanganidwa komanso ngati ali ndi nthawi yowerenga mawu anu. Ndiye mukumutumizanso mameseji kuti muyambenso kukonza zinthu. Mumapepesa pachilichonse ngakhale chinali chovuta. Mukungofuna kuti nkhondoyi ithe. Mukazindikira kuti uthenga wanu "wawerengedwa" nkhawa zanu zimakulirakulira kenako mumamuwona akupita pa intaneti. Komabe palibe yankho. Amakukwiyirani ngakhale kuti alibe chifukwa chilichonse. Tsopano mumayamba kumva kuti ndinu olakwa komanso muchita manyazi pamene kudzidalira kwanu kumayamba kugunda.

Kodi ndikungomvetsa chabe? Kapena kodi muli pachibwenzi chapoizoni?

Kulemba mameseji mumabanja kungakupatseni zochenjeza zingapo za maubwenzi oopsa.
Kafukufuku angapo adawona kuti kutumizirana mameseji kumatha kubweretsa zovuta zambiri komanso nkhawa, makamaka pakati pa okwatirana. Kafukufuku waonetsa kuti kutumizirana mameseji kumathandizanso kuti ubale wanu ukhale wabwino kapena woipa kutengera momwe inu ndi mnzanu mumatumizirana mameseji. Ponena za maubwenzi achikondi, akatswiri apeza kuti zomwe zimafunikira ndikugwirizana kwambiri ndi "mnzanu," m'malo molembetsana kangati.

Ngakhale ikhoza kukhala njira yolankhulirana, kutumizirana mameseji pakompyuta kungakhale cholepheretsa ubale wanu ndi anzanu. Izi ndi zowona kwa abwenzi oopsa ndi maubwenzi. Zolemba mameseji za wokondedwa wanu zitha kuwulula zambiri pamalingaliro awo, umunthu wawo ndi momwe akumvera zenizeni kwa inu chifukwa izi zitha kukuthandizani kuzindikira Zizindikiro zakuyanana.

Kodi amakulemberani mameseji nthawi zonse kukufunsa komwe muli? Kodi akufuna kutsatira komwe muli? Kodi akuyembekeza kuti muyankhe nthawi yomweyo? Kodi akufuna kudziwa mawu achinsinsi anu? Danga lanu ndilofunika mu ubale uliwonse wathanzi. Komabe, abwenzi oopsa amakonda kudutsa malire onse ndikulowera malo anu achinsinsi. Amatha kukhala olimbikitsidwa ndi kusatetezeka kwawo kapena zomwe adakumana nazo muubwenzi wawo wakale. Koma izi sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kupirira.

Angakupatseni “zifukwa” zochulukirapo (werengani zifukwa) kuti mupeze chipangizochi ndikuyang'ana zolemba zanu ndikuyitanitsa mitengo ndikulipirira kuti muwapindule popanda kuzindikira. Ngakhale simungakhale ndi chobisala, angakutsutseni kuti mukubera mpaka mutawagwiritsa ntchito kuti awapatse foni. Ngakhale nthawi zina, amatha kukhala ochenjera kwambiri ndikuti mukumwerewererana ndi foni yanu motero 'mwachikondi' adzakuchotserani foni yanu. Zonsezi ndimakhalidwe oyipa ndikuyesa kukuwongolera ndikukuzunza.

Lero smartphone yanu ikhoza kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chida osati kungodziwa zambiri zanu zachinsinsi komanso kuwongolera, kuwongolera, kukuzunzani, kuwopseza, kunyoza, kukusokonezani ndikukusiyanitsani. M'magulu oyenera, maanja atha kugawana nawo mwayi pazida zawo kuti athe kuwonekera bwino mu maubale. Komabe, ngati mukukakamizidwa kutero, ndiye kuti izi ndi umboni wa ubale womwe ndi woopsa komanso wosavomerezeka, wokondedwa wanu.
Khalidwe 7 lolembera mameseji oyipa lomwe ndi ubale mbendera:
"Chosangalatsa palemba ndikuti, monga sing'anga, chimakusiyanitsani ndi munthu yemwe mukulankhula naye, mutha kuchita mosiyana ndi momwe mungachitire pamasom'pamaso ngakhale pafoni." - Aziz Ansari

Chibale chilichonse chomwe chimakhala ndi poizoni chili ndi zizindikiro zakuchenjezani, koma pali njira zingapo zomwe zimapangitsa kuti maubwenzi azikhala opanda vuto. Kuyambira pakumizidwa ndi zolemba zosalekeza mpaka kukakamizidwa kuti muwonetse ma inbox anu kwa wokondedwa wanu, Nazi zinthu zingapo zolemba zolaula zomwe muyenera kuziwona.